UPDATE ~ 7/18/09: Check out the disturbing NY Post article about a shadowy Obama government body to curb free speech and blogging online. More proof of power-obsessed thin-skinned people looking to control and criminalize free speech under false pretenses of making a better world. Read for my take on it below this blog.
Reading from NAD’s blog about “Strategic Information Sharing or Malicious Gossip” got me thinking about this adage:
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.”
Whoever said that must have been a truly thick-skinned person. Or must have been incredibly hardened by all sort of words being thrown at him (or her). Or a very brave child standing up to a big bully.
In actuality, it’s an old English adage, coming from this original statement: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names can never hurt me”. I don’t know who actually said this, perhaps it’s a much older saying going back centuries. More than often, one would say this, in a bold manner, in order to stand up and show undaunted courage to an intimidating bully or an enemy ready to do violence. Or undaunted by strong criticism.
By saying that established you are a thick-skinned person not going to be back down by mere insults or intimidating words hurled at you. But if you believe that words do hurt you in some ways, emotionally or whatever, then you are really thin-skinned. A weak person, maybe in need of a bubble.
In the manner of being thin-skinned, you allow mere words to hurt you, like you’re allowing harm come to you without bothering to deflect it or defend yourself. Then you whine, cry and complain about that. You needed a wahbulance? Has our society been reduced to the level of infantile-minded mentality and we all in a need of being coddled all the times? Grown adults behaving like children so easily offended by words or expression of speech?
People say some harsh words to others all the times in the real world under difficult or frustrating circumstances (or, in some cases, as defensive mechanism). That’s life. Kids in the playgrounds or school recesses can be cruel to each other with petty insults or name-calling and still live anyway, aside from bruised feelings that, in time, would be healed. That’s life. Bigotry, no matter how unpleasant it is, is not a crime and certainly not a mean to an end. In truth, bigotry is an expression of one’s feelings toward people or beliefs he/she do not completely agree with. That’s life. No matter what, we should not resort to cocooning ourselves just because of some harsh or hurtful words, petty insults, or certain critical language that would make us uncomfortable or repugnant in our lives. It is in our human nature that we must learn and deal with any adversity in our lives, no matter how uncomfortable or difficult it is. Especially words that are uncomfortable or difficult to us. If you let words bothered you and kept you down, how are you going to grow up in life?
However, in the workplaces, there are exceptions. Because companies have rules and regulations for employees (and employers themselves) to follow, harassing people in the workplace repeatedly is a no-no. Since people are being paid to do their jobs and for their skills, not paid to be insulted and harassed by fellow employees (or employers) on a regular or irregular basis.
Foundation for Individual Rights in Education (FIRE) has a nice article about when speech becomes a crime. The real danger of criminalizing free speech is rooted from the fact some thin-skinned people are in the position of power (or political activism, with money) to undermine two of the most important founding principles of the country: the right to speak freely and the right to dissent without hindrance or limitation in any shape or form. Or law. These thin-skinned people do not wanted to be challenged or obstructed by anyone standing in their way of obtaining absolute powers. You’ll find plenty of them from the political left (it’s true, unfortunately).
I have already learned not to let harsh words, petty insults or critical language bother me. In fact, I welcome criticism! If you say my blog suck or my writing suck, say it or not at all. I don’t care and that’s not going to stop me from writing and blogging what I think and feel anyway. Bloggers like Mike McConnell and Ridor have dealt with all sort of insults and petty words thrown at them in the past and they are still thick-skinned. Even both of them lashed out at each other in their blogs and still come out unscathed.
If you’re going to let whatever harsh or hurtful words bother or break you, then my question is this: how are you going to grow up in life not ever knowing that’s only the half of the battle?
Perhaps you should construct a language-proof bubble-sphere.
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Continued from UPDATE above:
I think worrying too much about false rumors spread through the Internet is nonsense, as information-sharing and personal knowledge (as in someone who know you well) via social networking would quickly dispel false rumors. I do not blog or post false/fake rumor about someone or something, since I have a 24-48 hours vetting period policy to determine the credibility of information. However, this shadowy government body seem more than likely to favor celebrities and powerful people who support and give generously to Obama and the Democratic Party, as like Cass Sunstein, the Harvard law professor that Obama have appointed to head the body, the author of the book, “Nudge” and a long-time pal of Obama.
The worst part of it? Sunstein believed:
…whether you’re a blogger, The New York Times or a Web hosting service – you should be held responsible even for what your commenters say. Currently you’re immune under section 230 of the Communications Decency Act. “Reasonable people,” he says, “might object that this is not the right rule,” though he admits that imposing liability for commenters on service providers would be “a considerable burden.”
The man’s a certified nut. Bloggers are NOT responsible for what the commenters SAY on the blogs’ commenting sections. Bloggers cannot control what the commenters say or should say. Sure, there are some irresponsible commenters out there, but even irresponsible commenters have every right to be either right or wrong from their comments. Other commenters or bloggers would refute or criticize them in the follow-up. The federal government has no business in controlling, restricting or criminalizing bloggers, service providers and online media providers for false information or bad commenters. Sunstein seem to think the First Amendment must be subjective to the whims of the federal government for Change’s sake and for a “better world” (for only a minority of elite thin-skinned people).